Don't look for the pictures. I don't want to look at them yet. It's been a melancholy day for me. I'm feeling a little sorry for myself but feel like I need to blog - which is a combination I attempt to avoid on my own blog. It works fine for other people but I really try not to do it.
So this will be void of photos or links (I'm tired and lazy) and a little random and a little melancholy.
The kids were here - the kids are gone. We had a wonderful time together and the school year is nearly over. It passed in bits and pieces and now we're anticipating the swell of nervousness associated with upcoming court proceedings. We all feel very confident about our prospect of "winning" this time for a variety of reasons which I cannot discuss on the blog at all.
Thursday night they got here around 11:30 and the kids and I talked and laughed and talked and giggled and told stories in the kitchen until nearly 2:00am. Jeff was so so so tired - and was like the angry parents when kids are having a sleep-over and being too loud way into the night and keeping them from sleeping. Sorry sweetheart - we didn't mean to be too loud. *smooch*
Friday before lunch Benny and I mowed the "outside" grass. That would be all of the grass that is visible to the outside world. Our back yard is a complete jungle because we had to get a new mower this year and then it rained and rained and rained. We did a little work on it Saturday but it's still got a long long way to go.
Then the kids and I (yes, me and five children) ate out for lunch. It was fun, as always. I've mentioned that one of my favorite local fast food chains is called Spangles - the big kids love Spangles too and it was their preference for eating lunch Friday. We then shopped for shoes for Benny - the girls both got new shoes at Easter time. Apparently I have become the primary shoe provider because their step-mother will only buy them shoes from Target or Wal-Mart. Shoes from T or WM are fine for me - I don't wear them out very fast. For the kids T and WM shoes last about week before they look like they're ready throw away. We get shoes at the mall or Shoe Carnival, set a budget, shop at the athletic shoe stores, and always come out with something good. Benny negotiated an extra $20 to my budget by trading me a $20 gift card to Target plus he had $20 more of his own in cash that he had saved so he got some shoes that will put him at the top of the list of kids wearing the coolest newest shoe models at school. It's not really that important to him (wearing the newest coolest shoe model) but certainly doesn't hurt his ego plus he paid the difference himself - he can get what he wants.
We had tacos for dinner on Friday night - one of our all-time favorite family meals. We all help to cut up the toppings and fill the shells with meat. We use white corn tortilla shells and lightly fry them in oil so they're soft. Oh our tacos are heavenly - I'm not shy about saying that. My husband is usually a pretty modest eater but he eats a lot of these tacos. They're really good.
After tacos Benny went to the park and played basketball. Jeff and Emeline and Suzannah walked to the park together and played for a while then came back. While they were gone Katie and I went in the back yard and planted some flowers - sunflowers and hollyhocks. From seed. The hollyhocks won't bloom until next year - they're one of those "grow for a year before you get flowers" kind of plants. A broad description of my back yard flower bed areas is better for another post but I'm excited about continuing to slowly and thoughtfully develop my flowers and herbs. I have planted oregano seeds in a pot which will be transplanted when the incredibly tiny plants get a little bigger - the seeds are seriously the size of a grain of sand. I've also planted some new rosemary in a pot since the rosemary I transplanted from Texas did not survive the move. My sage did survive and for that I am thankful. It's a strange and exciting feeling to realize that I'm living in a place that I will be staying - maybe for the rest of my life. I haven't lived somewhere "permanent" basically since I left home 21 years ago. Like I said.... it's strange and exciting to realize the permanence about where I live and what I do with plants in my yard and things like that.
Saturday we spent our entire day at the Wichita River Festival. We walked around. I got a major sunburn. There was a mini-midway with a few rides including a rock climbing deal. All three kids went at the same time on the rock climbing - if you slip and fall down your turn is over. None of them made it to the top but Katie got the farthest. I have a picture of this for another day. We ate River Festival food for lunch - roasted corn and chicken tenders on a stick and ice cream and funnel cake and big piles of curly fries - so yummy. And listened to the live music at the food court. There was a hole-in-one contest that Benny sucked at. And there were paddle boats on the river - oh my gosh bad bad bad idea. Jeff and all three big kids on a paddle boat is a very very bad idea and they should have been warned by the people that they were going to wish they were dead before getting back to the place they were supposed to come back to. A river on a windy day with a very overloaded paddle boat with the paddles nearly out of the water because of the four nearly adult people on the paddle boat.... oh I thought Benny and Jeff would both have heart attacks trying to get back from the middle of the river. Lila and Emeline were little angels but got incredibly tired. We got home about 6:30 and Emeline went to bed for the night and didn't get up again until this morning. Lila took little naps throughout the day so she wasn't as exhausted as Emeline. Late Saturday evening we had a little celebration - I discovered Lila Pearl's first tooth. At six months she has her first tooth - at least four months earlier than any of my other children. She certainly marches to the beat of her own drum. Lila has a tooth. Next week she'll be in college. ::sigh::
And now they're gone. They told me Happy Mother's Day, ate their cereal, got dressed and picked up their backpacks and ham sandwiches I made for the trip, got back in the car with Jeff, and now they're gone. I miss them a lot. So does Emeline. The weather was cool and windy and partly cloudy today. I'm still wearing my beautiful and cozy pomotamus (sp?) socks from Kelly in Texas. I can't thank her enough. The socks I mailed to my pal have been gone over a week now - they should be getting there (Canada) any time if they didn't arrive yesterday.
We've been thinking a lot about the family of our dear friend T.C. who died last November just before Thanksgiving. We really miss him a lot. So so much. Today is his birthday. Mother's Day. Several of his friends had flowers delivered to TC's mother yesterday. We decided to make a donation to the SIDS organization (TC's favorite charity which was founded by his mother) in honor of TC for his birthday. TC was the person that brought everyone together - the hub of our friend group. We've hardly seen any of our friend group since he has passed. I told Jeff we need to invite everyone we can think of to come over to our house this summer some time and bring all of their kids. Okay, maybe not all at once - that would be a lot of people. TC threw a wedding reception/baby shower for us when we were expecting Emeline - yes - on Mother's Day weekend two years ago. There were people there who I had never met and Jeff hadn't seen in many years - for us - brought together by TC. We miss him more than anyone imagined was possible - mostly because we never imagined life without him - or any of our friends. We're too young to be losing friends yet. None of us are ready for life to be over.
So. It's been a day. Sort of a sad day. But life is good. We have healthy children. We have a beautiful home. And I have planted flowers.